Is it wrong to get angry?
There is a ditch on both sides of anger. On one side is a wimpy non-aggressive who feels guilty if he ever raises his voice, and on the other side is someone who tears the house down when they explode in rage. Both beat themselves up in condemnation.
We have never been taught to process this emotion because we did not understand its purpose. First of all, God is the author of your emotions. That includes anger. Anger is not evil, it is a tool and it has a purpose.
Ephesians 4:26 - Be ye angry and sin not, and let not the sun go down on your wrath.
Proverbs 16:32 - He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
Titus 1:7 - Don't be soon angry.
This says three things:
- It is not uncommon or wrong to be angry.
- You have the power and responsibility to use it as a tool.
- You decide how long anger is expressed.
Anger works like adrenalin. It is a "power emotion" that produces the fuel you need to change your circumstances.
Anger is a "break through" emotion. It empowers you to "Break through" barriers and difficulties.
Anger is a righteous and even godly response to anything that is wrong, destructive or out of order.
Most people only relate to anger as it has been displayed through an uncontrolled manner. But that is not the true image of anger. Abraham Lincoln saw a cause and was angry about it. The same could be said of Florence Nightingale and Mother Theresa. We all know of Martin Luther King Jr. What was the motivation that empowered him to continue in spite of all the adversity that he encountered? It was the emotion we call anger. Anger is the clearest voice when the cause is righteous. However it is only effective when it is put into action in the positive. If it is held in too long it will lead to frustration and destruction. The reason is because it is designed to be a problem solver. Most people are frustrated because they see a problem and feel helpless to do anything about. Frustration is anger that has been cooking too long. Anger is not rage but it can turn that direction. Anger can be expressed in a quiet, respectful and orderly manner. You don't even have to raise your voice, but you are motivated.
One word of caution, if you are angry all of the time, then you are out of balance with life and you are poisoning your environment. Just like a pinch of salt can add flavor, but too much of it ruins the meal. Anger in the right place will keep your life in order, but too much will destroy your family, your relationships and your future. Anger is only expressed the way God intended when it is through the fruit of the Spirit called "Self Control" (Galatians 5:22)
For more of a more in-depth study on the subject of anger, I suggest that you download the message I preached on the subject.