Why Am I Failing?
Doesn’t the advertising for weight loss seem like a bit if a scam? Wear this patch, take these pills, read this book, enter this program. This list goes on and on. We are always looking for the magic bullet, hoping that it is something that we are missing rather than something that we are doing. The fact is you eat too much, and you eat the wrong things. That’s it. The answer is that clear in almost all cases. The problem with your finances is that you spend more than you make. The reason that you don’t have many friends is that you are not very friendly. The answers that you are looking for in life are really that simple. That is how the bible was written. Love God and love each other. You have to have help to misunderstand it.
But it is easier to buy the book and the sweat band. It is easier to pop the pill that promises to make that slice of German chocolate cake “fat free”. It is easier to buy into the program that allows you to keep all of your bad habits. I heard an advertisement the other day that said, “Eat all you want and lose weight”. I am trying that one.
The fact is that you are where you are because you do what you do. Your decisions and actions have taken you there. I know that there may be exceptions where someone is blindsided or handicapped in some area, but that is the exception and not the rule. The bottom line is that you have to take responsibility for yourself. It may not be someone else’s fault because you can’t stay married or keep a job. It is just easier to blame someone else. There is one common denominator in all of your problems … and that is you. And as far as a job is concerned, no one gets rid of a good employee. That understanding is where you have to start if you are really going to change your life for the better. You can’t always be responsible for other people, but you can be responsible for you. You must be responsible for your decisions and your actions.
Where do you start? Be ruthlessly honest with yourself and lovingly honest with others. Sometimes it is difficult to see yourself, so you have to find someone you trust, ask the right questions and refuse to be offended. There are companies that pay large sums of money to have someone come in and make an assessment of their performance. What are we doing wrong? What can we do better? Can you imagine that company being defensive because you told them the truth? Yet we do that every day. Life tells us that we are not doing a good job in the form of a job loss or divorce or it might just be the language of our body telling us that we are doing the wrong things. Unfortunately, we either refuse to believe it about ourselves or we blame others because the opportunity went to someone else.
When you’ve had enough of where you are, write me and I will post a list of the questions you need to ask yourself to change your direction.